Posted in Blog, News

Are YOU a Sheep?

I’m having a huge issue with the media, big business and people in general.  I realize that this post is capable of being seen by millions, but realistically I’d say maybe one person will take the time to read it beginning to end and that’s being generous with myself.  But the news, the news is a different story.  Everyone in some way gets their news and it is seen my millions either by viewing, hearing, reading, social media, even through conversation with others.

I trult believe that people are just like sheep. One heads out and another follows and pretty soon there are hundreds/millions of sheep all standing around wondering how they arrived at their current destination/situation and surprisingly a lot of them are A-OK with that. Why?  Why is that??  What exactly is the mentality that drives people to band together even when it’s not ideal, logical or rational?  I don’t know enough about psychology to know this without doing some extensive reading, but I do see how quickly it happens and what can happen when it does.  Sometimes the outcome is good, but seemingly more often, it’s not.

My FB friends have been slowly weaning themselves off cable TV – which I recommend EVERYONE do! First, it’s way too expensive and secondly, TV is crap. Shows are opinionated, and a lot of them push an agenda.  Much of TV is the same thing over and over again – BORING.  And nowadays, what’s supposed to pass for comedy is not even close to being funny.  And well the news?  It’s anything but news – it’s speculation, conjecture, opinion and a lot of hype. If you want to know what’s really going on, GO OUTSIDE!!  Live, meet your neighbor, walk around the block, go to the largest city near you, visit some businesses, talk to people!  Perception is everything, but it’s also relative.

A lot of TV nowadays is someone hocking their Chinese-made shit to you 24 Hours a day, tell me, why are people ok paying for that?  That is definitely NOT something anyone should be paying for!  In fact, they should be paying US to watch it! But here again, people are like sheep and they do crazy things;…like say…pay $200 per month for a phone they don’t use, TV that’s almost all commercials, and websites to read so they can base their opinion on someone else’s experience.  Hmmm, yeah, makes sense to me.  NO, IT REALLY DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE TO ME!  AT ALL, NOT EVEN A LITTLE BIT!

Why don’t people “sheep” over things that MATTER and that affect us all?  How about “sheeping” together to make sure…

  • that the news that is reported is true and unbiased
  • that we don’t dole out money for a service we don’t receive
  • that our schools actually teach our children something beneficial
  • that every town has clean running water
  • that the people who actually can’t help themselves are being helped
  • that jobs paid for are done and done well
  • that animal shelters are funded to do what they need to do
  • that gas prices, grocery prices, prescription prices and medical care don’t make us ALL people who can’t help themselves
  • that plastic is biodegradable, that cars can run on something else besides gasoline
  • that criminals are punished for their crimes
  • that the mentally ill are cared for

This list can go on and on and on!!  But just for a minute, how about everyone stop being a part of the FAKE problems and start fixing the REAL problems.  Things that matter and make a difference to each and every person on this planet whether you live in America or not. Instead of turning on your TV and basing your day on what someone has embellished and skewed and warped and twisted, turn it off.  Then base your day, your thoughts and your life on what YOUR OWN day consists of.  Make changes where YOU live and in YOUR life.  Make a difference NOW in what will matter to YOU, YOUR CHILDREN AND YOUR GRANDCHILDREN in 50 years.

I just simply don’t understand how people can be sucked in so easily, manipulated by their own TV and “Big Business”?  Maybe it’s because their friends did it, or their parents did it or the media and the idiot box have convinced them it’s the “right thing to do”.  My advice, reassess your priorities, pay attention to who’s pockets are being padded and remove yourself from the HYPE.  Ask yourself on a daily basis, “How’s my life going?”.  And if it’s not going how you’d like it to go, start changing the things that aren’t working for you in YOUR OWN LIFE, chances are they’re not working for others either.

While writing this, a thought crossed my mind…maybe we aren’t like sheep, maybe we’re actually more like ostriches.

 

 

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Posted in News, Self, Travel

Star Struck

HI THERE!  Apparently, I’ve been on an extended vacation from my blog since April!  I didn’t realize it had been five months until yesterday when I was searching the site for a recipe!

I’m going to try to bring you up to speed and then go into a little more detail about the fun stuff we’ve encountered over the last five months!

April and May were basically a blur.  I spent a lot of time planning for our Disney trip and try to lose the last bit of weight I wanted to lose before leaving on vacation (this was a fail by 9 lbs. by the way, but more on that later).  The girls made it through another year of school and the youngest graduated to the high school!  Incomprehensible to me, but true all the same.

In early June, we all drove home to Maryland to visit family and friends and to drop the kids off at their dad’s in Virginia, which we did casually and quickly from the back of a limousine!  Originally, my plan had been to drink some wine, ride through D.C. and take copious amounts of photographs during the ride, but plans have a way of going awry and none of that even came close to happening.

We wound up riding to Virginia to drop the girls off after having lunch with my best friend and her family (the same BF that I went to Tennessee to be with in the last post).  To allow for more girl time and catching up, we invited her and her daughter to ride with us, which they happily did.  It was nice to hang out – always is, but all the plans that I’d made were then null and void.

Also during our trip we stopped by the church where I used to work as a nursery school teaching assistant.  We showed up unannounced and that’s always fun, I love surprising people!  It was so good to see my former boss and co-workers.  I really miss some of them.  Even though I only worked there a couple years and my boss was only my boss for a year of those two, she became a friend, a confidant and a huge influence on me.  She became someone that I admire and greatly respect.

Before we left the church, I was standing outside my car talking to a friend/ex-co-worker of mine when a man and two women exited the building.  I took a double take and immediately recognized the man.  I said to my friend, “I know that guy!  He’s on one of my favorite TV shows!”  To make sure I wasn’t losing my mind cuz I was really excited about seeing him, I facebooked him and asked if it was indeed him.  Lo and behold it was!  And then, I was even more excited that he answered me!  And just to let you all know, I’m not easily star struck – at all.  The only other person I was even partially excited about seeing was a woman from the T.V. show “Starting Over”, Andy Paige and I saw her in a casino in Atlantic City, NJ!  I never approach them, but I sure do recognize them!  Here’s my excited – albeit short – exchange!

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Now, if you know anything about me, you know I just LOVE Hoarders!  And one of the reasons is Matt Paxton!  Just watch THIS and you’ll see why!  I didn’t realize this but apart from “Hoarders”, he also works with people in downsizing and estate planning, which is a fantastic service, especially for the elderly.  I wish I had known about this before my mother decided to give – slash – throw away half of the things she ever owned.  If you’re interested in reading more, here’s a link – Legacy Navigator.  I only found this info because I’m nosey like that…

July was my birthday month and also finally, our summer vacation!  The one that I overplanned and had HUGE expectations for!  I’ll post more about our vacation in a new post!  Thanks for reading and sticking around, I should be around more myself now!  Hope everyone has a great Monday!

xoxo

Posted in Blog, News, Self

Liebster Award! What what?

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Sooo… I woke up this morning to find that Xiomara from It’s Friday let’s Bake had nominated my blog for a Liebster Award – how awesome is that?!!  Thank you so much Xiomara!

If you haven’t, please take the time to visit her blog and check out some of her gorgeous desserts and baked goods!  This fellow “Hoosier transplant” really knows how to make your mouth water!

I have to admit, I had to read up on what a Liebster Award was all about but now that I have a better idea, I’m so very excited to be nominated and look forward to other’s answers!


11 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME

  1.  I am an East Coast girl.
  2.  I have moved 12 times in my life.
  3.  My favorite vacation destinations are Disney World and Las Vegas.
  4.  I LOVE to cook and try new foods.
  5.  I have lost 80+ lbs. in three years.
  6.  I have never had a broken bone (knock on wood).
  7.  The best friend I have now, I’ve known since Kindergarten.
  8.  I met my significant other online.
  9.  I didn’t start eating green peppers until I was 43 years old.
  10.  My girls grew up in the same house that I grew up in.
  11.  I’m an only child.

11 QUESTIONS FOR ME:

Q. Why did you start blogging?  A. Originally I started blogging to write down things I didn’t want to forget, but some how it morphed into more of a food blog, hence the tag line about making up my mind.
Q. Assuming money was not an issue, what is the one thing you’re dying to do?  A. Travel.  I just want to travel.  Constantly, in every possible way to every possible place.  And safely! 
Q. What is one international food dish you would love to make or want to learn to make?  A. Sushi, that’s a pretty easy decision.  I’ve made it once and eh, it was ok, but I’d like to make different kinds and be proficient at making it.
Q. What’s your favorite style of music?  A. I like all types of music, but my favorite style would have to be Top 40 – whatever is popular at the time.  My all time favorite music is 1970’s music, but I don’t think that’s a “style”.
Q. What is your favorite season and why?  A. Spring.  I love the temperatures that spring brings and it really is a rebirth.  I feel like all things are possible in the spring.
Q. Do you have any pets? If no, are there any pets you would like?  A. Oh yes, we have a dog, 3 cats and a fish!  I love all animals, but we’re pretty much up to capacity here!  I have always wanted a horse and a pig though!
Q. What’s the most important thing in your life?  A. My relationship with my children and with my better half.  They are my reason for living.
Q. What is your favorite dessert?  A.  That’s a tough question.  My favorite desserts are ones with creamy fillings, creme brûlée, eclairs.  I don’t think there’s actually a dessert I would turn down.
Q. Can you bake? Do you like to bake?  A.  I can bake and I love to bake!  Baking is my favorite and I know it’s my kids favorite!  I love to bake cookies and cupcakes especially but I’m not very good at baking cakes from scratch.  I always think they come out too dense, I like light and fluffy. 
Q. What are your hobbies?  A.  I don’t know that I really have hobbies any more since I bounce from one thing to another like I have ADHD, but I love to cook, bake, experiment in the kitchen, I love to take photos, I like to travel and read.  Life is really busy right now, planning for college, a wedding, vacations…all hobbies in some capacity I suppose.
Q. What have you read or listened to recently that touched you?  A. I’m reading a lot about preparing your children to leave for college, I think the realization that that time is coming up quickly is touching me – hard!  I become teary eyed at the thought that my babies aren’t babies anymore!  It’s kinda scary!


11 QUESTIONS FOR MY NOMINEES:

  1. Why did you start blogging?
  2. What is the theme of the blogs you follow the most?
  3. Whom do you feel has been the biggest influence in your life?
  4. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
  5. What would be your last meal?
  6. If you could be known for one thing, what would it be?
  7. What was the last thing that made you really laugh out loud?
  8. If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?
  9. Do you drink – beer, wine or liquor?  If so what?
  10. Do you think you’ll still be blogging 10 years from now?
  11. What’s your favorite thing to do when you have down time to yourself?

10 Liebster Award Nominations (in no particular order)!

https://greattastebuds.wordpress.com – warm kitchen; great food
https://spaulyseasonalservings.com/
https://inspirethemom.com – enjoying motherhood together
https://thecakechica.com – organic cooking; from scratch baking
https://noplatelikehome.com – inspiring tasty cooking & DIY for a busy life
https://grace2882.wordpress.com – living low carb for a healthier me!
https://sistersweetly.wordpress.com – living the sweet life one Saturday at a time
https://emotionalweightloss.wordpress.com – shedding the emotional blubber
https://cherichat.wordpress.com – marriage, mayhem and mirth
https://vanishingcoastalgeorgia.com – photographs by Brian Brown


The Official Rules Of The Liebster Award:

If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award and you choose to accept it, write a blog post about the award and in it you will:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.

  2. Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)

  3. Answer 11 questions about yourself, which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.

  4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.

  5. Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 1100 followers. (I’ve seen the number of followers vary)

  6. Create a new list of 11 questions for the nominated bloggers to answer.

  7. List these rules in your post, feel free to copy and paste from here.

Once you have written and published it, you must:

Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

Posted in Family, News, Travel

Show Me the Mickey!

Well – I’m doin’ it.  I’ve been in a rut long enough now.  Time to shake things up and git to gettin’ happy!

(First, I have to admit – I absolutely freaked out a little while ago.  My blood pressure went up, I started to shake and I felt like I was going to pass out, all because I updated the OS on my mac!  I started thinking about all the stuff I don’t have backed up!  Does anyone else do that?!?  Good Lord, I thought I would jump out of my skin waiting for this thing to update.  Thankfully, it’s all still here!  UGH!  Can you say heart attack!?!?  Yeah, not a good way to go out for sure!  Anyway…here’s my happy!)

The last couple nights, while lying in bed NOT being able to sleep, the gears were a-grindin’.  ‘What sounds good, fun, exciting!?’  I’ve been toying with the idea of a cruise for a while now.  It’s been FOREVER since I’ve been on one.  Just few months ago, I posed the question on my personal FB page, ‘what cruise line do you recommend?’ and after a few posts, I started my research there.  Norwegian Cruise Lines, Royal Caribbean, Princess and Celebrity were all mentioned – even Carnival, but I know better than that!  I started looking and pretty quickly thought I’d made a decision.  Then – somehow for some reason – Disney came to mind.

Now let me give a brief background here about my relationship with Disney.  I have a long term love affair with WDW that started when I was about 2.  I have always loved Disney, suffice it to say – a lot, whole bunches with my heart and soul.  I won’t go into too many details because I’ll start to get emotional and probably won’t be able to finish this post.  Over the last few years I allowed my love affair with Disney to die a peaceful death when my ex started going on a regular basis with his current wife.

There’s a LOT of sadness and a LOT of baggage there.  I mean, it was my most favorite vacation destination EVER!  But in the last 10+ years, I’ve been only once, for an afternoon, with my girls.  My youngest daughter’s face in the photo below tells you exactly how I felt about being there at the time.

But now, I’ve come to the realization that I’m tired of allowing the old to disturb the new, I’m sick of missing out on the fun and the good times, all because of something I can’t and couldn’t control.  I miss Disney, I miss the fun, the colors, the movies, the rides, the attachment to a place that was always so good to me, I miss the resorts, the food, the monorail, I miss the anticipation and excitement of planning, I miss the hospitality and I miss the awesome, personalized customer service!  Screw it, I’m not missing any more!  I started reading the cruise reviews and all of them are exactly like I left them 10 years ago – Top Drawer – without question – they are – the Premier in Pampering!  And by God, I am so ready to be pampered!!  My decision was made…but first I had to clear it with the gang.

I was a bit hesitant about approaching the 15 year old, as ya just never know.  It’s hit or miss during the teen years.  I was surprised when it was my 14 year old that was like, “eh, I don’t know Mom, that sounds kinda babyish”.  But then I hit her with the Teen Club thing and she was in.  As of this morning, I have everyone I need on board!  I’m in this and I’m so totally excited!!  My 15 year old said, “and you can get married on the ship!”  Say what did you say?!  Hey…yeah…we could do that!!  Because Disney’s all about making Fairy Tales come true!

xoxo

 

Posted in News

Another Installment in the POS Collection*

*parental discretion is advised, strong language in use

I’m not a political person at all.  I don’t really understand it since it’s not based on common sense (obviously).  But I do believe I know right from wrong, which is what politics, laws and the rest of society should be taught and most importantly, made to follow.

I, like the rest of the modern world, have an opinion.  Sometimes I like to share my opinion with an audience because I think the subject is important and I do like to hear other’s opinions.  I especially enjoy reading common opinions of other’s to realize I’m not alone in my thinking.  Honestly, much of the time I feel alone with what I feel is straight up common sense, and a morality that seems to be way off course nowadays!  This world has changed a great deal since I was a kid and I can’t say it’s all been for the better.  People have simply lost their way.

The situation I speak of, that I find severely unjust and of great disturbance (and you should too), is this spoiled brat little jackass that’s been released from jail (and did I just type ‘jail’?  Because he damn sure should have been in prison!).

He RAPED a girl, he was smacked on the hand and then after three months, released to go home to mommy and daddy – seriously??!?  If anyone has ever heard or made fun of white privilege, well…this would be a PRIME example of how it comes down to that type of conversation!  I am inherently embarrassed by this!  And really, no one can be ok with this outcome, no matter what color you are.  Unless you are this kid’s parents (both of which are an embarrassment to the entire human race as well), you don’t want this guy living anywhere near you, white, black, red, yellow, green, purple, I don’t freakin’ care what color he is or how much money his parents have – this guy belongs in PRISON.  It’s an absolute disgrace that he’s not locked up behind bars.  He committed a heinous, unforgivable, unfixable crime.  The very least our shitty corrupt judicial system could do is pretend to give one rat’s ass about the woman he defiled and RAPED.  Six years – questionable, six months – laughable, thee months – absolutely absurd!

I have two daughters and I can’t even begin to imagine how I would feel, what her parents must feel?!  And believe it or not – this human being, this person, this woman that he RAPEDSHE MATTERS, HER LIFE IS IMPORTANT!  HER LIFE HAS BEEN FOREVER CHANGED!  I know what I think about him being let out and set free and I don’t know his victim from Adam.  To think that this could happen to any girl, any woman, any female, hell – anyone and the piece of shit be able to walk the streets freely after three months to do something like this again if the spirit moves him or he had a few drinks??  Really?!??!  I’m supposed to be ok with this??  Does COMMON SENSE have any place in our judicial system??  For a minute, forget money, forget color, forget good behavior…what he did CAN NOT BE FIXED OR FORGOTTEN! Should anyone be ok with this???  A mother or father with a daughter, a mother or father of a decent law abiding child that’s never committed a crime?  I am not ok with this.

There is just too much wrong with this entire story, I could go on and on for days about the injustices surrounding this case, but suffice it to say as a human being, a mother of daughters, a woman herself, that I find this whole situation extremely embarrassing, insulting, infuriating and disgusting.  That this POS is walking free with decent law abiding citizens (and MY children) just trying to make their way in this world, trying to do the right things and succeeding, pulling through and not inflicting pain or emotional turmoil on another!  How is this OK?

Once people like this SOB are set free to roam the streets amongst the rest of us, like it or not

WE ARE ALL VICTIMS!

 

** If you haven’t read the victim’s impact statement, I encourage you to.  This is every law abiding female victim’s story and the reason this shouldn’t ever be allowed to happen again!

Posted in Blog, News

Mom of the Year? Uhhh, no.

 

I saw this post on Facebook today and although I had a bit of a different take, the general sentiment was the same.  It’s nice to see that I’m not the only one.

I must say, I have to agree with Paula Bolyard when she writes: “…I realize that families are under siege in cities like Baltimore and there are few things harder than being a single mother raising a teenage boy in the inner city. Good parenting doesn’t come naturally and parents who didn’t have good role models growing up have few tools at their disposal. I suspect Toya Graham is doing the best she can in a really tough situation and she was probably terrified to see her son out in the street, knowing all too well what might happen to him. Her reaction is perfectly understandable. I’m not passing judgment on her — I haven’t walked in her shoes and I don’t know anything about her life save for a minute-long YouTube video. I’m just saying we shouldn’t be celebrating a parent losing her cool with her kid and the incident most certainly shouldn’t be propped up as the model of great parenting.”  

Yes, exactly.  I am certainly not passing judgement here either, I can only imagine what my feelings would be if I were in Ms. Graham’s situation.  I think she should be commended for caring and taking steps to fix one situation, but for her handling it and the public’s reaction to it, uh, not so much.  

One thing that no one seems to be considering is the original reason we now even know Ms. Graham, respect for the human race perhaps?  It’s fine and even commended, for a mother to slap her child in front of millions of people, but anger erupts at even the thought of a young man supposedly abused by the hands of others?  Does anyone see the correlation?

You know the metaphor about broken windows?  If you have an abandoned building and one window is broken by a throw of a rock, and no one fixes it, more than likely there will be more rocks thrown and more broken windows, because if you don’t care why should they?  Same with children.  You must take care and fix the window as to promote care and concern, not more destruction.

Posted in Blog, Education, News

Oh the Embarrassment

How embarrassing is all of this? The American people should be hanging their heads in shame for allowing any of this. From the President all the way down to the kid having his ass beat by his mother on national T.V.

Since I’m originally from Maryland I feel like this rioting mess is happening at my back door. Essentially it is, since it could happen pretty much anywhere.

Here’s my take on this:

If this guy’s spine was ‘almost severed’ after being involved in a police scuffle or riding in the back of a wagon unsecured, the officers are 100% responsible. Unless this guy had previous injuries, which I’m pretty sure he didn’t if he was running from the police, then the officers involved in his arrest are responsible. The fact of the matter is the law should stand for both officers and citizens alike (and anyone else on this planet). You can’t be negligent. I’m not saying this scenario is exactly what took place, but if he was placed in the back of the wagon, cuffed and unsecured and broke his neck because of it, the officers were negligent and not simply negligent, but intentionally negligent. That’s a crime – in so many different ways. He’s a drug dealer, not a murderer. If he were a murderer would I feel different about the outcome? Yes – I would, but that’s another Oprah show.

I personally believe that all officers should wear body cameras, for their protection and the protection of those involved in arrests, traffic stops, etc. It would eliminate many of the questions that can arise from a situation such as this.

I am embarrassed by the Mayor of Baltimore, she gave these idiots permission to be criminals and to destroy property, she is PART of the problem.

I am in support of the Police Commissioner speaking of the embarrassment he feels by seeing what is taking place in his city.

Rioting, looting, burning and destroying property is simply an opportunity for criminals to get away with criminal activity. As you can see as these idiots break into stores – check cashing stores, liquor stores, cell phone stores, drug stores, convenience stores. Not just any store, but specific stores – that THEY shop in?!? They know they won’t be prosecuted. It’s part of the game that’s being played. Is it ok to break into someone’s store and destroy property? No, it’s not. It should be stated when something like this happens, if you begin or partake in illegal activity – busting out windows, setting fires, destroying property, etc. You will be shot. Two men at the doors, trained to shoot. Period. People at this point need a deterrent. Their destructive behavior needs to be stopped – immediately.

They have no idea the repercussions of their actions. All they have to do is drive around Baltimore and D.C. – after 50+ years, some of the destruction that took place during 1968 riots hasn’t been erased. This only cripples them and the people that own these businesses. The sad part is, their responsibility level is nil – that’s how criminals become criminals, there are NO penalties and if there are, they aren’t effective – obviously. If there is EVER a reason to use a gun, this would be it. Rubber bullets and beanbags now have a use, use them. They are missing their mark in law ENFORCEMENT. Common sense once again has eluded people.

And as much as I think that lady that was “smacking” her kid in the head in front of the TV cameras was hysterical, I’m thinking that she is just as much of a problem as her child that she’s whacking. She needed to teach him right and wrong long before he was able to stand out on the street in a hoodie becoming part of the problem instead of the solution. Smacking your child in the head and jerking him around on T.V. is not productive parenting nor should you be proud of it. It’s simply embarrassing and it shouldn’t be commended.

On the news now, residents and the community of Baltimore are coming together to clean up the streets. That is what people should be striving for and this is what they should want – for themselves, for their cities, for their children and their children’s children. It should be what they want to see, to believe in, to focus on. This is what the U.S. should be promoting and encouraging. Working together to make things better, to make people and society better. To make America and it’s people something they can be proud of. Isn’t that something we should all strive for?

Unfortunately this country has many issues that need addressing and until they are addressed properly with some common sense applied, these behaviors – by police, by criminals, by parents and by our leaders – will continue. It really is appalling to watch. Good luck America from where I’m sitting, you’re doing a fine job of embarrassing yourself. Get it together.